I’m a perfectionist. And know that isn’t something I’m bragging about. Actually, I strongly dislike it (I don’t use the word hate in my vocabulary it gives negative energy vibes that I don’t need) and denied it until it was impossible to ignore. That was around age 18. It takes time to grow, y’know?
I’m 24 now — shit, actually I’m 23, my birthday isn’t until May — and life is getting pretty serious, as I mentioned. College is over now, settling back in the hometown was a year-long struggle but is finally coming to its end, and I’m in my first serious relationship. That’s also long-distance. Yeah. Navigating life is pretty strenuous for me right now, as I am sure it is for you, Reader. And these life-changing decisions have hung in the air waiting for me to move on them, but with perfectionism comes indecisiveness. So much thought must go into each important decision, but when is too much thought, well, too much? When do I say, “enough is enough, Zara. Make a fucking decision! TODAY!” Well, that day was today, actually.
Once again not ready for bed — even though I love sleep more than anything in the world as a Taurus — when bedtime came round, I decided not to force myself into my freshly cleaned sheets before I was ready. I would just toss and turn and wrinkle a perfectly good hour of sleep once I finally dozed off. So I chose to do something I used to abide by religiously but sort of fell off doing once I finished undergrad in 2020. I opened my Google calendar app and organized my life. You should know there wasn’t much to organize as my life currently consists of going to my 10–5 job and then returning to my hotel room (as my apartment floods every month but that’s a whole other post, Reader) where my 2 furry friends, Miko and Moon, wait for me with loving nuzzles. Then I mindlessly watch tv, FaceTime my boyfriend for hours until one of us decides going to bed is more desirable than staying on the phone.
Then I enter my solitude of restlessness as he’s somewhere drifting into his dreams. Reader, I have the best dreams. Some of the craziest dreams. It’s why I love sleep so much. My own dystopian world exists in my subconscious mind and I enjoy the adventures so much, I’ve mastered the art of lucid dreaming. I explore the highest mountain ranges, dual with my favorite witches and wizards, run through jurassic park, or revisit my wild college nights out in the streets with the girls. It’s my perfect personal world of all things me. Crazy quirks included. But I can’t get to that point with my nonsensical overthinking and life contemplating and pondering and — ughhh. Reader, this cycle needs to end. How do I stop obsessing over all things big and small? What is the vaccine to perfectionism? A virus plaguing my body and filling it with analysis paralysis where it’s impossible to even decide to go to bed.